The early childhood training is far more important than many parents realize. Also, because the result of early education does not show up until many years later, parents may regret not taking the early childhood training more seriously.
Having had experience of supervising schools, I have noticed a common trend in children’s growth. Many children will grow up listening and following their parents because they are totally dependent. However, as they become 12 or somewhere there about, many have discrepancies with parents that causes great grief between them. Parents may just accept it and excuse it as being a ‘teenagers’. But this is definitely unpleasant part of their and parent’s lives.
Let me try to explain why this happens. As the Knowledge Base (please look at my previous posting on Child’s Brain is like a Sponge) are formed and become stronger, all new information are filtered through it. Thus, if a new information that they observe are in contradiction to their KB, then they will either reject it or leave it aside. Conversely, if new information is in agreement with their existing KB, then their KB becomes even more stronger.
Therefore, what they have been observing and learning in pre-teenager years will determine how they will make their decisions in the future.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverb 22:6
Many parents may notice that their children’s behaviour changes as they progress in school. A once a sweet, dependent child of ours start to become irritable, disobedient, and defiant. You wonder what they teach your children at school. This is one of the reason many parents home school their children.
For those who have reservation about home schooling, there are studies that show that home schooled children fair better than public school children. (https://www.classicalconversations.com/homeschool-vs-public-school/) This article talks about how home school children fair better in standardized tests, society, and graduate college with higher grades.
Why do many children change for worse at school? I am a firm believer in that ‘mass’ education does more harm than good. In most public schools, typical setting is one teacher to 20 or 30 or 40 students. As our society becomes more individually focused teaching all 20 to 40 students at same pace is impossible. The most effective way to teach is one-on-one. But economics of having one teacher per student makes it not feasible in general setting. Thus, having low student to teacher ratio is the best learning environment for the children.
From my experience the optimal student to teacher ratio would be under 12. In this setting, the teacher can truly care for each children by allowing more one-on-one time in the class. This is very critical to early childhood training. Obviously, this would mean more cost, but some church sponsored Christian school are able to operate at this ratio and still keep the tuition costs down by leveraging church’s facilities, volunteers and donations.
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